Here are some simple strategies for parents to help their children cope in the time of Covid-19:

Explain and inform

It is important to communicate with your child about the global situation via the use of age-appropriate, honest and clear language. Start with ‘open questions’ that cannot be answered with a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’ (e.g. “What are your worries about the virus?”). 

Be mindful by trying not to dismiss their worries (e.g. “It will be fine!”) as they may feel their concerns are not being heard and may prevent them from talking to you about their worries in future. 

Share information and facts using sources of information that are reliable and assess the situation with each child to determine how much information you should provide. It is imperative to let your child know that a certain amount of stress is normal and to illustrate this by your own behavior as an example. (e.g. “when I am worried about this, I like to call a close friend to talk to them, shall we call your friend to talk to them?”)

Reassure

Be there to answer any questions your children may have. Engage children by showing them how you protect yourself and teach them how to do the same. For example, coughing or sneezing into the elbow may be difficult to remember, but you can call the elbow a ‘cough pocket’ and this may help behaviour stick. Even having a gesture as a reminder in the home or a song to reinforce this behaviour will help. 

Together we are better

Schedule time to engage in positive activities where your children feel seen and heard by you. If you are away from extended family, stay connected virtually by using technology as a family. A video call to grandparents/relatives will be useful to encourage connectedness between family members despite the physical distancing.

Routine

Have a basic weekly structure that is the right fit for your children and their homework schedules. The uncertainty that comes with the virus is a concern but sticking to a set schedule will provide reassurance. Keep healthy habits by maintaining a routine in relation to eating, sleeping, studying, playing or downtime. Some activities may include: board games, exercise, cooking together etc. Do incorporate some moments of surprise along the way to keep things from becoming dull. 

Manage technology

Movies, series and videogames are fun but there should be downtime where the family connects without technological distractions. Constantly having the news on in the background via radio or television may invoke anxiety so being mindful of limiting exposure is important. 
Highlight the positive: Help your children to recognise that, whilst it is a difficult time, there are still positive things happening. (e.g. “There are many people working at the hospital to keep us safe!”). This will assist your child to refocus and be aware of the entire situation whilst still remaining optimistic. 

What signs should I expect?

Feeling bored, anxious, or fearful of getting sick are all normal responses in this situation. 
Common short-term reactions you may notice: 


Young children: bed-wetting, nightmares, temper tantrums, afraid to be alone
School-age children: difficulty concentrating, easily upset, wanting to be near parents,
Teenagers: changes in sleep or appetite, arguing with family/friends, wanting to be alone.
 

When and how should I get additional help for my child?

 If your child’s behavioural changes persist or get worse, speak to your general practitioner and/or consult a clinical psychologist. There may be online/telephonic consult services available to maintain appropriate social distance.

Source:
Kiara Sunder, Clinical Psychologist
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